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What to Do When You Feel Like Quitting

i've had enough

That’s it.

Enough is enough.

Every single day I work my butt off to try and make a difference, to try and do something with my life.

But it’s hard.

And today I can’t be bothered.

Today I feel like it’s all a big fat waste of time.

Like it’s not working.

Like all of this effort has been for nothing.

I mean, what’s the point?

Have you been there?

I’ve been there…that moment where you feel like the whole world is against you…like nothing’s going your way and no matter how hard you try you just keep facing more and more resistance, hurdles, challenges…problems! ARGHGHGH!

It’s enough to make you scream out loud (believe me I often do). And retreat back to an ordinary, safe, comfortable life.

You know, I’ve had moments where I’ve felt like that with this blog. Where I’ve wondered – “Is anyone even reading this??”.

I worked it out the other day and over the past 2 years I’ve spent over 400 hours of my time writing posts in the hope that they will somehow help someone, somewhere around the world. I don’t get paid. I do it because I am drawn to do it. Because I’ve got stuff I want to share with the world. Because I want people like you to fall in love with your life a little. And ultimately because I know deep down inside that this is a part of my life purpose on the planet.

You know it’s at times like these, when we hit rock bottom, when we feel like we can’t go on – that we must reach deep down inside and find our own personal power.

I get it. It’s hard to be positive when you’re on the treadmill…when nothing’s working out…when you can’t see a light at the end of the tunnel.

But let me let you in on a secret:

These moments where its tough as hell and all you want to do is the opposite of what you know you NEED to do – these are the moments that count. Whether it’s a health goal, a new diet, a new promotion, a new business or even a new relationship, the moments when you’re at your darkest are the ones that hold the secret to your success.

“There’s a reason why it’s never crowded on the extra mile.”

Because most people give up before they get there.

These are the moments that will get you to where you want to be.

These are the moments that will stand you apart from the rest.

These are the moments that will create your success.

‘Sometimes we have to look through the darkness to see the stars.”

Think of it like a rites of passage…part of the process. I like to tell my clients that if they are feeling these moments of hardship then great! It’s a surefire sign that they’re on the right track. Instead of using them as excuses or reasons to fail, we must rise up like the phoenix from the ashes! We must not let these moments beat us. We are stronger than that. We must simply refuse to fail!

Because in the grand scheme of our lives, what’s a few growing pains here and there?

Have you ever thought about how strange the concept of growth is? Think about it:

shell cracks

This applies to all aspects of nature…even childbirth! Ask any mother on the planet – growth ain’t easy girls!

Well personal growth is no different. So if you want to achieve great things in life, you must be ready to grow through the destruction.

But fear not young padawan.

What awaits you on the other side is far more beautiful than you can ever imagine.

In the past, when I’ve hit a point where I felt like quitting, I looked to others who had already been there. I mean if they’ve done it, then so can I right? So over the last year or so, I’ve collected a whole load of quotes that have inspired me to keep on going. You can check them out on my Pinterest board below (don’t forget to follow Simple Life Strategies too while you’re there). I hope this inspires you to keep going too.

Click here to go to my Never Give Up Quotes

Simple Life Strategy: What to do when you feel like quitting

1. Stay true to the way that you’re feeling. If you feel angry then allow yourself to fully feel those emotions and then move on

2. Quit worrying about what others may be thinking of you – this is YOUR life. So what if it’s taking longer than you thought, so what if you fell off the wagon a few times…Keep going

3. Know that it’s the moments of darkness that power us forward – how can you use this frustration to energise you to reach your goals?

4. Remember why you’re doing what you’re doing? What is your vision beyond this?

5. Simple refuse to fail. Can’t fail if you refuse now can you?

If you’re still looking for more inspiration then I’d check out Lizzie Velasquez’s story…this woman was publicly humiliated and named the ‘ugliest woman in the world’ by 4 million people…yet she forged ahead to create the life of her dreams. This is her story.

If you think this article might inspire someone you know to get through a tough time then please share the love. Let’s stick together on this one.

Do you ever feel like giving up? Go on, share your story in the comments below. Maybe you’ll help someone else by sharing what you’ve learnt?

Thanks for listening,


Zoë B

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45 Comments. Leave new

Hey! I just wanted to say awesome article, and thanks for taking the time to write it. Oddly enough, it resonated 🙂



Thanks for this article, very inspiring and motivating!



Thank you so much.

Ashley A Boller
July 12, 2016 7:48 pm

Thank you so much for this article. You gave me hope that i can move on from all the pain amd struggles i am going through. ????


Although well written, and I am at that “place” at this moment ,why do these or any other words I read inspire me? or the website owner/writer not reply to these messages is it because the fact is this article is to help sell the strategy nothing else!


I’m there. So tired of having everything micromanaged in my life, but when I open my mouth I have no voice. I’m never heard. When I speak – it’s as if whoever I’m trying to talk to is only waiting until I pause and then they have to take over the conversation. They tell me what I should have said – what I should have done – who I should be…..I’m not enough…..of anything….ever.


As they are jealous Hun


Grace the only reason they take over your conversation is because you give them a conversation cause they can’t make one themselves


That’s me,I get spoken over,always no one listen
I baby sit,( used)
Not important enough to talk to,unless it to ask to baby sit.
When I die will probably be the time they Sa
I should have,,,,,,,too late then


Hate this! Know the feeling of people constantly spouting their opinions without actually listening….. you should have done this, you could have done that, etc etc. SO annoying!!!! Try ignore these people and stick to your gut feeling.


People I talk to don’t even wAit for a pause. I have no value to anyone unless it’s to scam me or take advantage of me. I try to communicate with people to admit a mistake and I am brushed aside. I talk to customers service people they lie to me..they say they will mark my account and they don’t..compounding my problem.
Seems like everyone I run into assumes I’m stupid and treats me accordingly.
I have an issue with a natural gas company …I missed a payment because of some life events that have me completely stressed out. I’m trying to make my mistake right…they are not interest in working with me and they are just horrible. What they don’t realize is we are doing some work for them at my husbands business. The shoe is in the other foot so to speak…I’m in charge of billing and thier bill to me just went up a great deal and it is due on receipt.


Thank you for this blog


You made me feel better today. Thank you. I have nothing to complain about but I’m just going through a tough period in my life. The toughest I’ve faced. It’s brought be down. But spending the moment to read what you have written made me feel better. Best wishes to you


Thank you. This article did help or is helping. Right now I lost my home, my kids, my job and my business is not going as I hoped. But I Will keep going. Thanks


How did you lose them Frank?


Hi Frank, hope things have improved for you. Well done on hanging in there.

Reply with someone who doesn’t give a sh|t about me.she says different.ive lived a lie too long.i need to




Truly inspirational…. definitely learnt something from this 😊 keep writing ! It really does help


Thank you. Your message keeps our trials in perspective.


Six months trying to get a job. My mom has an aneurysm 10days ago. I’m sitting in her rehab hospital and googled “when you have had enough” and found your post.

Thank you for giving me hope and the strength to move through this moment.


Great website , really helped me today , I am not going to give in , I feel like it but no way , life starts now


The trouble with any of this advice though is that more often than not it still doesn’t work out for the majority of people so any advice is pointless. All it is, is a smokescreen to cover up a few years to get you nearer to death. Once you’re near death age no one gives a sh*t anyway, you’ve had your life, done.

So as much as you mean well, its all complete and utter b0ll0cks I’m afraid. Not everyone can be successful, not everyone can have money and what gets most people down is the complete unfairness of it all, the unbalanced nature of life, that some people don’t have a pot to pjss in, yet others have more wealth than they could ever possibly need.

Its the same with rich people or celebrities, they always make me laugh when they come out with shjte like ‘follow your dreams..dont give up…you are the future…’ blah blah blah…yeah, its REALLY easy to say and portray an image of yourself when your rich and famous and don’t have to struggle through all the normal day-to-day shjte that most people do. Its very easy indeed. They can simply walk away from it all, straight back into their mansions and pots of money, whilst the rest of us STILL have to put up with the shjt.

Just tell it like it is. That the best advice to give anyone who’s really down, done everything they could possibly do and still at rock bottom, is just do yourself in. End the pain. End the suffering. There really is no point to ‘dragging it out’ in the hope you think its going to change for you. Thats what millions of other people are thinking too. Its like being on the first page of Google if you’re a small business. Forget it. No matter what you do, someone else will always have tons more money than you to make sure they are first and you barely get any hits. Well life is like that for some people too. I have huge amount of respect for people who have had enough and decide to end it. Thats real guts, thats real strength.


Yes I’m done to.Can’t be bothered with another minute of it.Lost my wife and daughter is mentally ill and doesn’t want to live with me.Dad died this week and I fell in love with a woman who just wants to be friends and rings up to see how I am then proceeds to tell me how much weight she has lost having sex with her new boyfriend.I haven’t had sex for 3 years since the wife left my daughter and I.Skint and so fed up.
Now 50 and feel life has passed me by.I always tried to be a nice person but you get walked over for that.
Can’t be bothered with any of it.
People say be positive but I have tried so hard and more shit keeps coming and coming.
Never ends.


John, do you really feel like this?


Thank you


You should go ahead and quit.. I’m 60 years old, and nothing is any different today than it was 30 years ago. . It’s just more physical pains and less to look forward to. I’ve been through two marriages where I gave all I had to give, and they still failed. I don’t really have any more money or better standard of living than when I was 30. As a matter of fact, I was better off in my 30’s than I am now. So what I’m trying to say is it doesn’t matter.. People can blow sunshine up your backside all they want, you still get old, your body fails, very few people come around anymore, and then if your lucky the lights will go out peacefully. That’s all there is, don’t expect anymore..

Stefan Huysamer
May 30, 2018 4:23 am

I just felt like giving up. 10 year marriage gone. Moved on starting to rebuild my life. Found someone amazing, that amazing person (new 10month relationship) just told me to take the day off and pack my things. 😭
On top of that I’m financially ruined, can’t even pay for a cheap hotel room.
I have a job, started a new career path but I started at the btm. The pay is so bad that I can’t even rent a room and pay my debts off.
I’m in the uk and spent a lot of money going back to SA to visit family members.
I have lost 5 family members in a space of 4 years and possibly another one due to heart failure. (Can’t even but a ticket to visit him) The bf I have (had) just lost his mother 6months ago.

Anyway, a lot of money was spent on credit cards to see them (family comes first-I’ll worry about paying it back another time)

After my marriage broke down of 10years I lost control of my life. Drank a lot, lost a really good job.

So here I am looking for reasons to stop all this pain and suffering at 3am.

I saw this page and it actually gave me hope. It WILL be ok.

It will be ok. It will be ok, I really hope it will be ok. 😭


I sincerely hope that things have improved for you in the last few months. I’m also living far away from my family, and right now my brother is on a ventilator after having a brain aneurysm at 47 – I have not seen him in 2 years and cannot go right now (waiting for new passport). It is HARD. So painful. You feel helpless and just want to ask “Why? Why my family?”

I guess all we can do is our best, even if that best is very far from perfect. Take it one day at a time, cry when we need to, and then get up and show up the next day.

You’ve got this, Stefan. Best of luck to you.


Hoping this little bit of inspiration will keep me going. I’ve just had enough of not being enough.


Thankyou really what I needed to read today


Thank you Zoe. Reading this article made me feel better as I do feel like giving up. I am crying now, but warm, happy tears of relief, knowing I am not alone. I guess angels do exist. Love


I have had enough I have worked all my life , brought my kids up one doing ok one at moment in prison, I have had my ups and downs, I’m now going on 60 and I find my life just sprilling out I’m bored I don’t have a voice I’m brought down my husband deals with everything so I just drink because I feel that’s the way they like me to be , I’m under there control, I have just had it with them all ,.

Natalia Baker
July 16, 2018 10:28 pm

Beautifully written words from the heart. Thank you. Just wish I didn’t feel so weary of life. I know we need challenges to grow but I feel like screaming……enough now!! My friend killed himself a few days ago. Bless his sweet heart. Whilst I’d never do that, if I’m honest there’s a small part of me that envies him. No more fight. Does that sound crazy? God forgive me


Wordsworth couldn’t have put it better x


I never leave comments but stumbled across this. Thankyou for writing and sharing,. I’m having a very bad day and reading this helped sum up how I feel.


It’s 3:31 AM. I can’t sleep again. Things have become so unbelievably difficult. I am in the last part of a decade of training to become chartered in my profession. My current job has changed and has become so anger provoking and stressful. I spend my weeks across three different parts of the country to facilitate the doctorate I am on. My relationship is suffering.

I found this on a Google search I made about having had enough of life. This was very sobering to read and never have I felt something on the Internet was so relevant. You have helped to remember the why of what I’m doing. Through struggling comes reward. That day will come. Thank you.


Johnno, I too was up at 3am today! Must be something in the air 🙂 I’m so happy this post helped you. Wishing you nothing but success & happiness on your journey. Zoe B


This made me feel better. Thank you.

Annette Eriksen
November 27, 2018 12:39 pm

Many thanks for sharing this. It is exactly how I’m feeling at the moment plus added huge feeling of failure. Your inspiration has given me hope and it is great to read I’m not the only career coach feeling like this at time.
You are awesome!

Do you ever do in person events in Sydney? I’m based in Brisbane most of the year, hopefully from next week all year round.


Thank you. Very good. Needed this immensely. Looks like it was written a few years back. Still doing what you purposed it to in 2019 in Indiana USA.


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